First Letters First

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First of all, welcome and thank you for sharing your precious time with me! We are all as amazing and special as our super individual finger prints.

BUT – not totally…

Ok, if you’re reading on from my last article and you have taken the test, you should now have four letters which are your personality type.

Let’s take the easy route and start with the first letter…

You should have an E or an I

E = Extravert

I = Introvert

Here’s a really easy explanation  – Extraverts experience the World EXTernally i.e. outside of their head; and Introverts experience the World INTernally i.e. inside of their head

Int vs ext

At this stage, I feel duty-bound to stave off comments like…

“Introverts are shy”

“Extraverts are loud”

In our society we often mis-use these words and it can lead to a lot of confusion.

I personally am tired of having to remind my nearest and dearest that I am an Introvert as some of my other personality letters make me appear to be quite outgoing, gregarious and a bit of a diva!

My Sister on the other hand hates the bad press that Extraverts get around them being party animals, always up for anything etc. when she (an Extravert) loves nothing more than an evening on the sofa binge-watching a box set.

The difference being that if we both got a last minute invitation to a night out, she would be happy to go. I, on the other hand would start leafing through my “handy book of excuses”.

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Starting to make sense?

Take a look at some of these definitions…

Actions Introvert Extravert
Meaning Prefers to remain isolated, or enjoys the company of a few close people Outgoing and enjoys being around and talking to lots of people
How others see them Self contained Gregarious
How they speak Think before speaking and sometimes struggle to say what they mean Make sense of things by speaking them
How they energise Recharge by solitude Recharge by social interactions
How they prefer to spend time Happy to spend more time alone Likes to spend more time with family and friends
Focus Inward Outward
How they deal with change Struggle more with change Accept change easily
How they communicate Will openly communicate with those they know and trust Will openly communicate about themselves with anyone
Concentration Can usually concentrate for long periods Get distracted easily

So – stand up and be proud of your FIRST LETTER


All the “I’s” say “I”

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All the “E’s” say “E”

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Most important of all, both I’s and E’s are all part of the rich “WE”

Sarah Terry is a School Counsellor and Author who works in Central England. Her interests include Counselling and Psychology, Personality Types, Jogging and Yoga and Meditation. Find out more here

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Life will resume after this quick message…

Hello fellow Earth Dwellers…

Today, I ask you to celebrate the fact that we have all been celestially chosen to inhabit this place.

In the words of the Great Purple One Himself…

“We are gathered here today to get through this thing called life. Electric word life, it means forever and that’s a mighty long time”


And although it may seem like a long time, especially if you are a young adult with your whole life ahead of you, it really isn’t that long…he should know

So take a couple of moments today to give thanks for YOU

You are loved

You are special

You are worthy

And as an added extra, I am personally sending you a cyber hug of love…Human to human

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Keep on keeping on and share the love today – but first of all with yourself

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Thank you for reading xx


When you know what you know…

When I first decided I wanted to write, I had a fantasy that I would write a book, get an Agent and a Publisher and enjoy a life of writing forever…


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OK OK you can stop laughing now!

The reality is that writing a book is bloody hard work and publishing and promoting it is even harder!

I’ve long since given up on this idea but I’ve discovered something far more valuable in the process.

The small gains are so gratifying and exciting, I wonder whether I’d even really like the lazy author life. I’ve discovered that self publishing is not only fun, but I retain control!

Control of the book, control of the book cover, control of the pricing and control of the promotion.

After reading Firefly Magic by Lauren Sapala, I realised that I can do this and that the way my brain works, although it is different from many others, (read weird, kooky, crazy…you choose) is ok, and most of all EFFECTIVE.

After all, if Lauren can do it so can I!

So, here’s an excerpt from my book which will be free on Amazon this weekend! If you like the sound it, head on over and download a copy – don’t forget to leave a review if you can!

“Mia was a little girl with a big personality. Standing no more than shoulder height to my 4’11” she was tiny even for year 7.

Her father being mixed afro Caribbean and her mother white, Mia was mixed race. She sat before me, her milky brown skin and dark brown eyes set within an elfin face almost hidden by a shock of hair falling in ringlets to her waist. The ringlets were partially tamed by a small clip placed on top of her head. Mia sat on her hands, legs swinging as they didn’t reach the floor; and she rocked back and forth.

Mia had rather a pronounced tic in her right eye which I found distracting but in a strange way, also made her endearing. Mia rocked back and forth looking at me, her hands still firmly under her legs. She began to grimace in the way a small child would when they are getting angry. Her bottom jaw jutted out and her open lips revealed gritted teeth. Her eyes were now fixed and wide open, staring just past me. Was she about to have some sort of seizure? I felt myself becoming concerned, but I held my position as I felt there was more to come.

Sure enough, after a few seconds, Mia let out a loud, low “Grrrrrrr” and her head began to shake. Mia had now firmly fixed her pretty brown eyes on me and, as I looked, I saw it. Slowly, very slowly and starting at her eyes, Mia began to smile, an almost manic, mischievous smile. What was she trying to tell me? What did she need me to know or do? I held my position still further and the growl began to morph into a low-pitched demonic laugh. Her legs were now swinging in opposing directions and she threw her ringlets back and stared up at the ceiling, looking back at me periodically, I suspect, to check I was still watching her. This went on for about 2 or 3 minutes. The tiny demon in front of me was pulling out all the stops. I sensed she wanted me to intervene or try and stop her, but I didn’t, partly because I wanted to observe the behaviour but partly because I was fascinated by it. The more the performance went on, the more I began to like this girl.

When she stopped, Mia looked at me quizzically. Her head was cocked to the side like a puppy. The facial tic returned, the rocking subsided and the hands remained, as they had been all along, under her legs.

“I hate this school, I hate my Dad, and I hate everyone except my Mom! I want my Mom!”

Mia’s demeanour changed, her spine curved backwards into a C shape and her face was screwed up like a toddler who had been refused a new toy. She was frowning. I really had been subjected to a full show here.

Finally, I spoke. “Wow” I said. It sounds like you have lots of feelings about lots of things. You say you hate your Dad, and everyone and the school and you want your Mom?”

“I just want my Mom! I hate my Dad!””


Thank you for reading and please get your copy of the book here or by clicking the cover image

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A FREE Gift from me to you

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In the spirit of Valentine’s weekend and to share the LOVE…

I’m excited to reveal that my book will be free on Amazon this weekend!!

All orders on Saturday 15th and Sunday 16th February will be FREE!

It talks about some of the amazing young adults I have worked with and graphically takes the reader on their amazing journeys.

What are you waiting for – get on over an order your free copy on Saturday. Click here or on the book cover to order


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Get down off the Hook!

My article today is about sticking with things and seeing them through to the end, even if it seems like a never ending slog!

I’m speaking today about my career as a counsellor of young adults but also about following my lifelong dream of becoming a writer.

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When I decided that I wanted to become a Counsellor, I very naively thought I could attend a course for a year and go off and do the job. For some people this works (or at least they think it does) but for anyone who is devoted to the World of counselling others, we know that it takes time, patience and lots of self-introspection. I would also add that, I am still learning every day after 12 years.

My first book“Inside the Teenage Mind” was borne from my constant surprise and awe when listening to young adults tell their stories.

“You should write a book!”

“People would pay to read that!”

Eventually, I plucked up the courage and did it!

I tried for a while to make the traditional publishing route but received “no” after “no”. In the end, I decided to have a go at self publishing via Amazon.

But here’s the thing. My biggest dread was around marketing both myself and the book. I was sure that people would think me stupid and annoying plugging my book all the time.

I had tried just about everything with little success until I came across a great lady called Lauren Sapala. Lauren, like me is an INFJ and she seems to talk to my inner mind!

When she gives advice in her great books and on her website, I feel like I’m listening to myself when I talk to my clients!

The first thing I do is let them off the hook. So what if that failed? So what if they don’t like you? I find that letting people off the hooks they make for themselves give them space to breathe and think! With amazing consequences.

And do you know what? I’m actually starting to enjoy becoming an author-preneur!

Let’s hope it works for me too! Why not check out my book on Amazon and let me know what you think!

Sarah Terry is a School Counsellor and Author who works in Central England. Her interests include Counselling and Psychology, Personality Types, Jogging and Yoga and Meditation. To find out more about Sarah, please see below.

If you like what you see here, please hit the “follow” button, leave me a comment below or contact me directly.

You can also see what I’m up to on Twitter and Facebook and follow my books on Goodreads or Amazon

If you liked this article, here are some more you might be interested in…

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