Is your cup half empty or half full? Time to re-evaluate!

Are you finding it hard to view your cup as anything but half empty at the moment?

There seems to be a real feeling of despair as we approach Christmas, a typically fun and social time of the year. Families are deciding who makes the Christmas day “cut”. Farmers are putting Turkeys on diets to keep them small enough for 6 and retailers and the leisure industries are bracing themselves for more lean times.

At times like these, it’s worth remembering just how well off we really are in much of the World.

We have food in our bellies.

We can still get out and about, even if it doesn’t seem as fun.

We have technology so that we can communicate with loved ones.

So let’s spare a thought for those of us who’s daily struggle is not the fact that they forgot their facemask when they went shopping, or they can only stay out until 10pm in the UK.

Let’s spare a thought for those for whom Covid-19 rules and regulations would be welcome instead of their daily battle for food and safety and freedom.

Start by giving thanks for yourself and try this quick exercise…

Write down 3 things that you are thankful for

Read it and breathe a sigh of relief for exactly where you are right now…cup half full!

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After a long, enforced break, I’m (sort of) trying to get back to my normal job of counselling young adults with very mixed results!

Interestingly enough, said teens and young adults don’t seem at all phased by the Global pandemic much beyond the boring few weeks of lockdown where they were unable to see friends in person, forced to stay at home with equally boring parents with nothing to do except eat, watch TV and enjoy the unseasonably good sunshine! (Bummer!)

In most cases, the 6 month gap felt more like 6 days with most picking up where they left off.

This got me thinking…

Have we created too much support for young adults?

Do they automatically seek out support as an easy option instead of solving the problem?

Are parents who are struggling to cope, expecting schools to pick up the miracle working where they left off?

Furthermore, I like to muse on the theory that this situation will create a league of superheroes the like of which we have not seen for a generation

The Corona-Heroes! The extraordinary young adults who, despite missing 6 months of formal education managed to… dare I say it…not only survive but THRIVE!

No, perish the thought!

Sorry, I’ll be back to doom and gloom normal after a brief look at the News

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As we enter a new age, a new beginning, a new normal; we can’t help but reflect and assess how, not only our lives but our World has changed!

When I did my counselling training many years ago, there were very strict rules around how counselling should be administered, where it should take place etc.

Until even the last few months, in my work in a school as a counsellor, the rules were made for a pre-pandemic World.

Human contact became a bad thing. Separation became the new way of showing love.

Face coverings, until now had been seen as a bad thing and had been discouraged. Now they are compulsory.

In a year which so far has seen a global campaign asking us to #bekind in tandem with a cry to end racist hate crimes, how do we know where we stand?

Our young adults will grow up with a range of words and phrases we only learned in adulthood…

R-number, Covid, Social Distancing, Self-isolating, Lockdown, Zoom, Support Bubbles, Covidiot…and many more

I have adapted my counselling to an online service, which to my surprise has worked really well. We adapt, we move on.

As I prepare for a return to school at the end of the summer, I will be sharing the apprehensions of my co-workers and my students. We are all in this together and together, we will find a way to get through it. In fact, we already are!

I will be endorsing the message to my Young Adults that Covid-19 will be written in the history books along with The Ancient Pyramids, The Plague, World Wars 1 and 2, The Great Fire of London, the list goes on.

And so that makes us all special!

We are all part of the time when a virus brought the Modern World to a halt!

Technology couldn’t help, weapons couldn’t help.

The only thing that helped was being human.

It’s something we can never fully explain to anyone who has not been through it, and when we talk about Lockdown Hair styles and Zoom Quiz Fridays, we will all raise a smile because we will “know”

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As I re-join the Social Media World after a short, conscious break from information overload, I’d like to check-in with you.

How are you?

If no one has asked you that for some time, I’m asking you now and please feel free to answer below.

As we begin to emerge from our drastically shrunken Worlds, we may have become unaccustomed to the “live” check-in. It’s easy to hide behind a screen, portray a happy life for the duration of a Zoom call but as we begin to interact again (socially distanced of course!) we begin to experience the sharing of energy in real terms.

Here, the importance of making sure your fellow human is really ok, begins to shake us from our imposed self-centred existence.

It’s easy to rejoice in tales of courage, stamina, of health defeating disease, kindness, community etc. but there have been many untold stories. Stories which are not news-worthy or share-worthy. There is no massive drama, just sadness, fear and despair.

As the bearers of these stories start to mix with society, we must make an effort to feel their energy, their pain; and stand in it with them for a moment. We owe our fellow human that much.

And so, I ask again…How are you?

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Are you feeling the pinch…or lack of during Lockdown?

For Extroverts and those with Extroverted Feeling as a dominant cognitive function, these times have been extra hard. Particularly if you are single!

Recent announcements by the UK Government have meant that single people in the UK over 18 can choose a “Support Bubble” to become part of. this has meant a moment of euphoria for those who have been confined to their own four walls for weeks on end.

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Quiz nights, Zoom calls and Social Media can help but can also serve as a reminder of our own loneliness as we switch off and ask our four walls for some salvation. Even the recent UK announcement that up to 6 people can meet outside at a social distance has been a tantalising reminder that touch is not allowed.

As Lockdown slowly begins to ease and we tentatively step out into our New World, we should let the last few weeks serve as a reminder that Mother Nature is always in charge!

She has the power to give…and to take away!

We can adapt and indeed our extroverted nature meant that we manipulated technology in great ways to stay connected, we even joked about our situation and we made the changes we needed to so that we could stay ahead of the game.

But we should always remember, have respect for our fellow humans, and most of all this planet that we have on loan because it’s in charge!

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In these trying times, we are overwhelmed with stories of hope and triumph against all the odds which I love.

We are also painfully aware that this is not the case for everyone and many people are struggling with real issues!

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How to Manage Conflict at home

Managing conflict when we are all locked in the same house or even the same room can be, to say the least, challenging.

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We can refer to a business model here which has long been applied to leadership management. Since it utilises the human conflict management styles though, we can easily apply it and use some styles to help manage others.

Negative Styles

1. Competing with each other

Maybe for the first time, we are faced with personalities who are naturally competitive and find themselves without a conflict to fight.

So they make one!

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Look for continuous and pointless arguments that don’t seem to achieve anything between two or more members of the household. you will more than likely have identified your competitors!

2. Avoiding conflict

I am guilty of this. I hate conflict especially within my family group and will avoid it at all costs. I’m that person who all of a sudden desperately needs the loo or has an important call to make when disagreements arise in my house.

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3. Accomodating

Much like avoiding, this occurs when we accept and “give in” to the wants and needs of others for an easy life. It can leave the person doing the accommodating feeling rather resentful because they have not had their own needs met.

Positive Styles

We can use the more positive styles to try and bring our households together…

4. Collaboration

This is where everyone works together to try and come to an agreement. It uses the ideas of everyone and then everyone decides the best way forward. This can help everyone to feel that their needs and ideas have been heard

5. Comprimise

This is where everyone accepts that they have to give up a little bit of what they want to gain something. Again, if everyone is agreed on the compromises, they all feel like they are getting something out of it

The way forward…

Look at the ways in which your household is settling conflict at the moment and think about how you can incorporate some of the more effective ways of solving conflict…

  • encourage competitive types to use their skills to come up with the best solution and present it to the group
  • make sure that avoiding types and compromisers are happy with the decision by asking their opinion and allowing them time to put their ideas forward
  • try presenting the conflict issue as if it were a problem to be solved at work or at school and give everyone a fair chance to try and solve the problem
  • try fun ways to solve problems like taking it in turns to make decisions for 24 hours each and all others must follow them

If all else fails… remember a murder charge is for life, not just for Lockdown!

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Covid-19 Thank you!

So, how are you all holding up?

I’m ok… getting used to the new normal imposed on us and getting to quite like some of it (show me an introvert who doesn’t want to stay at home and do introverted things!)

Well, now the schools have closed, I’m one of the thousands of self-employed people in the UK, along with my husband who have had their earnings abruptly stopped and I eagerly await the Chancellor’s announcement to help us pay our mortgage, oh and eat, probably in that order.

I’m eighty thousandth in the queue to claim my £94 a week but I try to keep smiling as I’m one of life’s optimists! My husband isn’t and hates it.

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So, I thought I’d do something to help out the young adults (and older adults) who are currently sitting at home and wondering what the hell to do with their building anxiety.

I started a YouTube Channel!!!!!!!!

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Let’s remember that there is always going to be someone worse off than us and share a smile.

I went for my one piece of exercise today and made a conscious effort to smile at very person I saw! and do you know what? They all smiled back!

Spend 1 minute being thankful for what you have! Switch off your phone, look out the window and watch the birds. They remind us that life goes on.  Because it does

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