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Anger – 5 Things you need to know!

I know I’ve talked many times about anger but it remains one of the most popular issues faced by my clients.

For this reason, I’ve decided to give you a re-boot, re-fresh, whatever you care to call it with my top 5 things you should know about anger. Here goes…

  1. Anger is a physical reaction to a thought or feeling. It is NOT an emotion. When we say we “feel” angry we are feeling the physical effects of anger, such as clenching fists, headache, clenched stomach and a general need to “fight or flight”. The single best way to deal with this reaction (which is the same as the anxiety reaction) is to BREATHE!!!! Oxygen helps to dilute the hormones that our body has created and helps it to return to normal levels. See my post on breathing techniques here
  2. Anger often comes from a lack of control somewhere in our life. We feel that we are unable to change something and this often makes us feel stuck which can lead to an anger reaction. An example may be where we allow a person or situation to really “get to us” (note the wording here, because we have control as you’ll see later). Address areas of your life where you find yourself getting angry – try and write down what’s bugging you and spend some time analysing why you feel the way you do – don’t forget to be really honest!!
  3. As mentioned before, we are ultimately in control of our own anger. Our anger belongs to US because we create it! Blaming others only serves to re-enforce angry outbursts. This is perhaps the only golden rule of anger if we truly wish to manage it. Until we take responsibility for our anger, it will always be something we are at the mercy of. Take control today by accepting responsibility for your own anger.
  4. Get to know your anger – keep an “anger” diary for 7 days and note when you became angry. Make sure you add as much detail as you can such as time, place, who you were with, had you eaten, etc. After 7 days, track back over the listings and see if you can find any patterns. You may also want to look for key situations, times etc. so you can build a picture.
  5. Remember that anger is GOOD when used as a force for good! We only have to think about campaigns like #BeKind #BlackLivesMatter #MeToo to see that anger, when directed, can be a powerful tool for change. Don’t try to chase your anger away, it’s better to acknowledge it and make friends with it. This way it can be your assertive ally rather than your destructive enemy.

For more about Anger, why not try my short course for just £9.99. You can use it for yourself or as a coaching tool when working with others.

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What label are you wearing today?

Anxiety – Top Tips for Instant relief

TRAGEDY!!

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#BeKind…to yourself!

Now, more than ever, we need to make sure that we are kind to each other and that we can provide support to one another too.

After many years of being asked, I’ve decided to merge my two areas of expertise – Counselling and Course design to create an online course for those of you who want to learn exactly how I do what I do!

The Course is Accredited by The International Association of Therapists who I am very proud to be working with and my course is also now available on Udemy at a heavily discounted price for a few hours only!

Check it out BELOW and, if you’re interested, watch out for a very special treat announcement TOMORROW AT 5PM GMT on my Facebook Page (please like my page if you haven’t already!)

NOT TO BE MISSED!!!!!

All Hail Gen-Covid19

After a long, enforced break, I’m (sort of) trying to get back to my normal job of counselling young adults with very mixed results!

Interestingly enough, said teens and young adults don’t seem at all phased by the Global pandemic much beyond the boring few weeks of lockdown where they were unable to see friends in person, forced to stay at home with equally boring parents with nothing to do except eat, watch TV and enjoy the unseasonably good sunshine! (Bummer!)

In most cases, the 6 month gap felt more like 6 days with most picking up where they left off.

This got me thinking…

Have we created too much support for young adults?

Do they automatically seek out support as an easy option instead of solving the problem?

Are parents who are struggling to cope, expecting schools to pick up the miracle working where they left off?

Furthermore, I like to muse on the theory that this situation will create a league of superheroes the like of which we have not seen for a generation

The Corona-Heroes! The extraordinary young adults who, despite missing 6 months of formal education managed to… dare I say it…not only survive but THRIVE!

No, perish the thought!

Sorry, I’ll be back to doom and gloom normal after a brief look at the News

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Having a little DejaVu? – and an announcement…

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Having a little DejaVu? – and an announcement…

Hello all you lovely people!

Today’s offering is a video which is part of the personality types series. Today we talk about the differences between Intuitives and Sensors. Which one are you?

I’m also excited to announce that my new ACCREDITED online course “Counselling Skills with a Young Adult Specialism” will be ready for release soon! Keep an eye out as places are limited!

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And in the meantime, enjoy…

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An Introvert’s Hell

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Counselling Skills Accredited Online Course!

During the past few months we have all been through lots of changes. As a counsellor, I have seen big changes in the way I have had to work.

I have also had lots of enquiries from friends and colleagues who have been thinking about their careers and may want to add another string to their bow.

It is for this reason that I have written a counselling course which can be taught and assessed online!

CHECK IT OUT HERE!!!

Not only that, the course will be accredited by an independent international body that specialises in accrediting holistic courses taught online.

The course, entitled “Acquire Develop and Practice Counselling Skills with a Young Adult Specialism” will be based on the first course I took in Counselling. The NCFE Level 3 Diploma. This course helped me to understand the mechanics and challenges of counselling and helped me fall in love with it.

I have added the Young Adult Specialism as this is the area I have seen the highest demand in. Further specialisms will include Mindfulness, Coaching, Personality Types and more.

There are many counselling courses available online, some better than others! Obviously this one is amazing!

This course is delivered via pre-recorded video with exercises and assignments added in. The course will last for 25 weeks. You will get email support from me and one 40 minute zoom session at a point in the course to suit you!

CHECK IT OUT HERE!!!

If that’s not enough, you will also get access to my online course aimed at Young Adults dealing with Anxiety for free! You can use this as a learning tool, a mentoring tool whatever!

I believe that counselling practice properly starts when you begin to use the skills you have learned. That is why the course involves lots of reflection and practice which you can upload for assessment. I also believe that learning should take place in a safe, non-judgemental and supportive setting, which is why I have decided to restrict each accredited learning qualification group to 15.

I will shortly be releasing dates for the beginning of the first group so if you want to register your interest, please do so here

You may want to register your interest quickly to avoid disappointment!

So if you want to learn a new skill and help yourself and others, please get in touch!

Learn to love Pandemic Life!

As we enter a new age, a new beginning, a new normal; we can’t help but reflect and assess how, not only our lives but our World has changed!

When I did my counselling training many years ago, there were very strict rules around how counselling should be administered, where it should take place etc.

Until even the last few months, in my work in a school as a counsellor, the rules were made for a pre-pandemic World.

Human contact became a bad thing. Separation became the new way of showing love.

Face coverings, until now had been seen as a bad thing and had been discouraged. Now they are compulsory.

In a year which so far has seen a global campaign asking us to #bekind in tandem with a cry to end racist hate crimes, how do we know where we stand?

Our young adults will grow up with a range of words and phrases we only learned in adulthood…

R-number, Covid, Social Distancing, Self-isolating, Lockdown, Zoom, Support Bubbles, Covidiot…and many more

I have adapted my counselling to an online service, which to my surprise has worked really well. We adapt, we move on.

As I prepare for a return to school at the end of the summer, I will be sharing the apprehensions of my co-workers and my students. We are all in this together and together, we will find a way to get through it. In fact, we already are!

I will be endorsing the message to my Young Adults that Covid-19 will be written in the history books along with The Ancient Pyramids, The Plague, World Wars 1 and 2, The Great Fire of London, the list goes on.

And so that makes us all special!

We are all part of the time when a virus brought the Modern World to a halt!

Technology couldn’t help, weapons couldn’t help.

The only thing that helped was being human.

It’s something we can never fully explain to anyone who has not been through it, and when we talk about Lockdown Hair styles and Zoom Quiz Fridays, we will all raise a smile because we will “know”

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Your Brain will outlive Social Media!

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How is your Mental Health Today?

As I re-join the Social Media World after a short, conscious break from information overload, I’d like to check-in with you.

How are you?

If no one has asked you that for some time, I’m asking you now and please feel free to answer below.

As we begin to emerge from our drastically shrunken Worlds, we may have become unaccustomed to the “live” check-in. It’s easy to hide behind a screen, portray a happy life for the duration of a Zoom call but as we begin to interact again (socially distanced of course!) we begin to experience the sharing of energy in real terms.

Here, the importance of making sure your fellow human is really ok, begins to shake us from our imposed self-centred existence.

It’s easy to rejoice in tales of courage, stamina, of health defeating disease, kindness, community etc. but there have been many untold stories. Stories which are not news-worthy or share-worthy. There is no massive drama, just sadness, fear and despair.

As the bearers of these stories start to mix with society, we must make an effort to feel their energy, their pain; and stand in it with them for a moment. We owe our fellow human that much.

And so, I ask again…How are you?

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Introverts…Currently Saving the World!

Check out this beautiful article written by one of my clients about her experience of realising she was an Introvert…

Int vs ext

Originally, I believed introverts were people who disliked socialising and were quiet or shy. Sarah explained to me that this definition was wrong, and together we worked out that I was actually an introvert.

As a person, I am often loud and outspoken around those I’m familiar with, as long as I do not feel vulnerable (such as discussing a topic I am not confident in understanding or one that I am sensitive about). I am always making plans in my head about ideas for days out, and I love being with my family and friends. This is what made me believe I was an extrovert.

My main understanding is that I have what I believe most people call a ‘social battery’. This means I can socialise just as an extrovert would, but up until a certain point.

For example, when I’m on a holiday, at some point I have to separate myself from my family, like staying in my room or sitting on a balcony. I don’t do this because I’m mad at them or fed up but purely because I just need some alone time.

It’s difficult to explain the feeling you get and I don’t know the reason why it happens, but I think it’s something a lot of people experience and is tricky to deal with if you don’t understand what’s happening. It can also be hard to explain my behaviour to people around me, like my Mum who doesn’t really understand why I’m not out with my friends every weekend, because she doesn’t experience that feeling.

I definitely have a very close circle of true friends, which I know is a characteristic of an introvert. Despite this, I also like to be on friendly terms with lots of people that I can spend small amounts of time with, like having a quick conversation within a corridor, getting lunch with or spending lessons with. However, I would never get personal with people I wasn’t extremely close with. At school during my breaks I would often avoid places like the common room because it would be too much, and usually went there when it was in my free periods and there were less people.

I often fake confidence when I meet new people. I do this because I want to seem like an approachable person, when I’d usually rather not be speaking to people I don’t find interesting or have a relationship with. I worked as a cafe assistant for a time and didn’t mind small talk with customers, but I would always try to work in the kitchen with people I knew well instead of out front where I’d have to interact with lots of customers.

Something I have noticed since gaining a better understanding of myself, is that there are certain people who I find it hard to get socially exhausted around. For example, my few very closest friends and my Mum, are people who I find it hard to need to take a break from. I may need to take a break from the social event we are at, but I find I can relax with them rather than on my own.

Understanding I am an introvert helps me to keep in control of my behaviour. I can now understand that certain things are too much for me, and it makes me feel better knowing that it’s not that I’m too lazy for a night out, it’s that this week I really don’t feel like being around strangers and I’d rather we stayed in. (And often my friends are on the same wavelength).

Quarantine has not really been affecting me like I see it affecting some people. I don’t feel a need to go out and don’t think I will do long as I can entertain myself. Although, I do miss my friends and family, and would say I am looking forward to it being over.

-Anon, Lichfield, Staffs, UK

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