Forgive your Bully and Move on with Your Life
This may be the most difficult part of the process but will also be the best part if you can manage it. We are going to forgive but not forget.
First of all, you need to understand the power of forgiveness and how it works for us. This is not so much about the bully but about YOU!
Forgiveness is something that benefits the person who forgives more than the person who is forgiven
It gives us a sense of power over a situation and this is where you are able to move forward, leaving your bully behind.
Let’s work through a simple thought exercise…
Sit or lie quietly if that is available to you. Take a deep breath in, hold for a second and breathe out, relaxing your shoulders as you do so. Repeat a couple of times. Then, close your eyes or lower your gaze.
Once you are feeling relaxed, think about what you have achieved so far. You have learned about the bully / victim relationship and also about yourself and your bully.
For a long time, this person or people have been dominating your thoughts and it’s now time to let go of those thoughts and use your experience to move on.
Imagine your bully is standing in front of you. You are going to thank them for giving you the opportunity to learn new skills and to become a stronger person.
Next, you are going to tell them that you have forgiven them. The reason why you forgive them is because you understand that they do not have the knowledge you have, and they don’t know any better. Tell them that you hope that one day they will learn to be kinder to themselves and others.
Tell them that you don’t forget what happened because it has taught you so much and you want to keep that valuable learning inside of you.
Finally, turn your back on your bully and walk away like your favourite super hero or super person with your head held high and a big smile on your face!
Keep smiling as you gently wiggle your fingers and toes and open your eyes!
Remember, we all have the ability to choose who we are and who we want to be. Make that choice today and choose to be YOU!